Rebirth of Chinese Entertainment, the Diary of a 95 Flower

Chapter 89 Treat him like an islander
"When you meet the director, screenwriter, producer, and other key creative staff, you need to be polite, greet them proactively, and smile. If they talk to you, it's best to respond with high emotional intelligence."

"Emotional intelligence?"

Yang Chaoyue's hand holding the pen trembled, and he looked up at Jiang Yang.

There is a gleam of wisdom in the clear eyes.

This is the first time I have heard the term emotional intelligence.

"I don't know what emotional intelligence means?" Jiang Yang asked.

"I only know IQ."

"Emotional intelligence is different from IQ. IQ focuses on cognitive ability, while emotional intelligence reflects interpersonal skills... Tsk, how can I make you understand this?"

Emotional intelligence is a bit complicated, and what's more, Yang Chaoyue has no idea about it. What he said was too profound to understand, and he didn't know how to explain it all of a sudden.

simply.

Find a video case for Yang Chaoyue.

Maybe you can get some attributes.

Jiang Yang went to the sofa and took out the tablet, unplugged the charging data cable, and searched for a program on the video platform, "Lu Yu You Yue".

I found the episode with Huang Bo in 09 and moved the progress bar to the famous scene that was later regarded by netizens as a high emotional intelligence response.

Yang Chaoyue looked at it very seriously: "Huang Bo, another MC guest of "Go Fighting". His hair was so long in 09, like a woman... Is the woman on the sofa on the right the host?"

"She is Lu Yu. This is an interview program, and Huang Bo is the guest."

In the video, Huang Bo, who had just become famous for two years with "Crazy Stone", was sitting on the sofa on the left, with the long hair of a literary youth at that time, which was below the ears.

Wear a simple T-shirt with a cardigan and jeans.

From today's perspective, it's a bit too weird.

He has a simple smile on his face, dark skin and is very approachable.

Lu Yu, who was sitting on the sofa on the right, had a neat short haircut, a natural skin tone, light eyeshadow, and light lipstick. She asked Huang Bo:
"You can do it now, Huang Bo, quite popular, right?"

Huang Bo shook his shoulders and said with a smile: "It must be popular. Think about it, I can sit here and chat with Lu Yu, so how can I not be popular?"

After the video finished playing, Jiang Yang asked, "How do you feel?"

Yang Chaoyue leaned forward slightly and stared at the screen: "Huang Bo is so good at talking."

"What's good about it specifically?"

"What's the specific good thing..." Yang Chaoyue pondered, his fingers unconsciously drawing circles on the table: "I don't know, I can't tell."

Yang Chaoyue had almost finished thinking about it.

Jiang Yang explained the key point: "This example uses the method of first admitting the problem and then resolving it."

"Admit it first, then resolve it?"

"When faced with Lu Yu's question, most people's first reaction is usually to respond modestly, 'No, no, it's okay.'"

Yang Chaoyue didn't say anything, his pupils dilated slightly.

I just followed Jiang Yang's thoughts and imagined that if she was praised like this by others, she would respond like this.

Jiang Yang continued, "After all, we've been taught to be humble since childhood. If we directly acknowledge this kind of compliment, it will often surprise everyone. However, if we simply acknowledge the compliment, we will appear arrogant. So after Huang Bo acknowledged it, he also praised Lu Yu, without appearing arrogant or making the situation awkward."

After saying that, Jiang Yang lowered his head and took a sip of noodles.

I felt a bit hot. I stood up and went to the coffee table to get the air conditioner remote control, set the fan speed to low, and lowered the temperature by two degrees.

Yang Chaoyue's gaze followed Jiang Yang: "Brother Yang, I think I know what a high emotional intelligence response is."

"what do you think?"

“When facing other people’s problems, you should first acknowledge them and then lift them up.”

Jiang Yang sat back at the dining table, his Adam's apple rolling slightly: "That's what I mean."

Yang Chaoyue learned it.

It was worth it that he specifically sought out this clip.

In fact, this is not a high emotional intelligence response.

An emotionally intelligent response is one that skillfully handles a variety of interpersonal and communication scenarios.

First, you can consider issues from the other person's perspective and feel their emotions and needs.

Second, even if you disagree with the other party's point of view, you should not directly deny it, but respect their ideas.

Third, express your opinions clearly and explicitly, avoid ambiguity or misinterpretation, and use simple and clear language.

Fourth, responses can ease the atmosphere in a tense or awkward situation through humor or appropriate topics.

What Yang Chaoyue just learned was the fourth point.

Huh...why didn't I hear the system prompt sound?

Jiang Yang felt something was wrong: "Chao Yue, have you really learned it?"

"I got it!" Yang Chaoyue's eyes showed the confusion of someone who is just learning a concept.

Still no system notification sound.

Jiang Yang patiently coaxed: "I'm going to ask you a question now. Try to respond to me using the high emotional intelligence method you've learned."

"Okay!"

"Yang Chaoyue, are you so stupid?"

Yang Chaoyue took a deep breath silently and thought about his answer.

According to what Brother Yang just taught me, I need to admit it first and then raise it.

She raised her eyes, stared at Jiang Yang, and said seriously, "Yes! I'm stupid! You're smart, okay?"

Jiang Yang's mouth twitched: "Any other responses?"

Yang Chaoyue cleared his mind: "I'm definitely stupid, it's mainly because you taught me well."

"another."

"Yes, I'm stupid, you're smart, your whole family is smart."

Jiang Yang's right eyebrow twitched slightly.

If I hadn't seen the clear light in Yang Chaoyue's eyes, I would have really suspected that he was being treated as a Japanese.

It feels suffocating to watch a child calculate 3+5 as 35.

I understand why teachers sometimes suddenly get angry while teaching.

(End of this chapter)