I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Lin Feng: "Let's talk about your confusion.
younger sister,

Have you seen grass seeds?
The kind that comes one by one.

In fact, grass seeds were used to make door curtains in ancient times, and later monks also used them to make rosaries.

Before being strung together into a rosary, this grass seed was a single seed.
Just like our spirit, it is fragmented and piecemeal.

You have to use the needle to string them together one thread at a time, and after they form a circle, you will find that it is a chain, and it is a complete thing.

What does it mean when extended to our lives?

For example, you now think this is a problem, that is a problem, our cognition is also confused,
If you connect them together, you'll find it's normal.

But in fact, it will not be broken just because you exist as a single particle.

That's not the case.

The grass seed is complete in itself, and it is complete when put together. It is always complete.

Do you understand?

you are you.

Just because your cognition is confused or clear does not make you no longer you.

What's wrong with depression?
What happened to the split?
I've made it through it, too.

because I know,
I'm not a weirdo.

I'm no worse than anyone else.

I am a flower that never fades.

In the heart of my magnificent life, there is a skeleton of a migratory bird.
My roots are in the soil and my heart is in the clouds.

Don't worry that I will die from the footsteps of travelers, because I have a faith that will never fall.

I endured the rainstorm.
I also learned to burrow into the soil and become a late-germinating seed the next year.

Sister, remember this.

No matter how small or broken I am, I am still complete, and we will all eventually move into the big world."

After Raymond Lam finished speaking, the girl burst into tears.

The barrage scrolled wildly.

"I'm numb and have goosebumps."

"I'm not a weirdo, I'm no worse than anyone else... Oh my god, I'm crying my ass off."

"I am a flower that never fades... Whoever understands this sentence is so powerful (covering mouth and crying)."

“No matter how small or broken I am, I am still complete... What kind of god-like anchor is this (shocked)”

"Listening to my elder brother talk, I sometimes laughed like crazy, and sometimes cried like rain (bitter smile)."

Not to say,
"Light up your cigarettes, brothers from all corners of the world."

Light a cigarette!

. . . . . . .

The girl couldn't control her emotions and sobbed.

Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette and said, “If you want to cry, just cry. It’s okay to cry loudly.

In fact, we are all the same. Many people are confused before they have their own career and their own economic framework.

His thoughts, including his life, are actually a mess.

At this time, my views on things are easily influenced by public opinion because I have not experienced it myself.

If people say east, I go east. If people say west, I go west.

Just like me,
When I first entered the circle, my cognition was also confused.
I just started a career and I am not very professional. When I meet some senior professionals in the same field, I tend to be timid and I tend to be submissive.
Relatively speaking, I am just a little servile and have a people-pleasing personality, which is normal.

Have you ever heard of Zhuangzi’s “Using the mind as the environment”?

The mind of a sage is like a mirror. It neither rejects nor resists, it responds but does not hide. Therefore, it can overcome things without being hurt.

younger sister,

Imagine that you have a mirror in your hand.

If you use a mirror to look at the flower, there is a flower inside.

If you use this mirror to look at your poop, you will see a pile of poop inside.

But after taking a photo of the flowers, does the mirror smell fragrant?
Not fragrant.

After taking a poop photo, does the mirror stink?
Not smelly.

I have taken pictures of flowers, but I will not refuse to take pictures of my dad. No matter who you are, it will reflect you just as you are.

This is the characteristic of the mirror.

Zhuangzi said that we should use our heart like a mirror, which means that we should turn our own soul into a mirror.

Never label yourself.

Because every moment is the reality of life.

They are all my best state.

What kind of person I am depends on the environment I am in at the moment.

I become what kind of person I meet.

But I am still me. Flowers don't smell good after being photographed, and poop doesn't stink after being photographed.

I don’t assume that there must be a problem. I cry when I’m sad and I laugh when I’m happy.

There is no problem, and don’t doubt that there is any problem with you.”

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I cry when I'm sad, and I smile when I'm happy. I don't have any problems. I feel so warm and touched (flowers)."

"The mind of a wise man is like a mirror. It neither resists nor defies, it responds but does not hide. Therefore, it can overcome things without being hurt. (Thumbs up)"

"Flowers don't smell good after being shone on them, and poop doesn't stink after being shone on them. This is the attitude we should have towards life (awesome)."

"No, what on earth does this guy do? I was searching for King of Glory, why is he doing this to me? (confused)"

"That's right, my brother is the king in the emotional field (dog head)."

stand by!

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "If we are too obsessed with some things, it is easy to have psychological problems.

Because you're exhausted from thinking too much, and your energy is gone, then you're really in trouble.

Really

As people think about it, problems gradually arise in their thinking.
Most people don't really have any big problems.

Are you under a lot of pressure from the college entrance examination?

It is normal for us to have some escapist mentality and some depressed mentality.

Because this is human nature.

When I encounter danger, I will naturally run away.

When I encounter darkness I am afraid and I will go less often.

For example, when I look at the water by the river, which is green and black, I know it is very deep, so I will be afraid and I will naturally stay away from these things.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to escape, but don't think there's something wrong with you.

These are human nature, everyone has them, you haven't done anything wrong.

It doesn't mean that only those children who see the water is deep and are willing to jump in and swim are brave.

No.

Being timid has its advantages, and being brave has its advantages.

I'm just being myself and I'm not hurting anyone.

No matter what kind of personality you have, that is your characteristic.

Don't deny yourself.

I think people should want to gain some peace and tranquility.

The most important thing is to slowly learn to be consistent with yourself.

Slowly accept yourself. "

. . . . . .

On the barrage

"No matter what kind of personality you have, that is your characteristic. Don't deny yourself. I declare this to be the most encouraging words I have heard this year (thumbs-up)."

"I thought I was sick, but it turned out to be my nature (crying to death)."

"So who defined cowardice as a shortcoming and bravery as a virtue? Who made this decision and used me as a pua for so many years? (Angry)"

"I declare that I will reject PUA from today on! Those who say bad things about me are bad people (smile)."

"Since I started following Big Brother, I suddenly realized that my resources are unique and eccentric (dog head)."

Hahahahaha.

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[Military Advisor’s Comments: When I was a child, my family and relatives always said that I was too introverted, didn’t like to talk, and didn’t know how to build relationships.

Later I realized that it was because you had been sensitive to the fact that these people were neither close to you nor understood you since childhood.

Just some fake relationships.

They want a child to provide them with emotional value. You are not introverted and quiet, you are just authentic.

You smell fakeness and you don't want to pretend or get close to them.

Precisely because you are smart, genuine and sharp, you choose to be introverted and avoid those superficial family and relative relationships.

But when you are too genuine, you will be excluded, suppressed and labeled by fake people.

Don't believe it, and don't fall into the trap set by this fake adult world.

There is no distinction between introverts and extroverts.

It’s just a matter of being aware of the texture of the relationship and choosing whether to open the antenna of connection.

remember,

You are a very good kid, don't believe their lies, just be yourself! 】(End of this chapter)