I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

The woman left.

Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette and said, "Parents, I'm telling you, don't always think that I will do nothing and I will just raise my children.
I spent all my money on my child, and will rely on my son for support in the future.

I tell you,
Times have changed.

In today's society, everyone is an only child.

You said that when the children grow up and get married, how can two only children possibly be responsible for the elderly care of four elderly people?

Not to mention whether the money is enough, he just doesn’t have the energy to take care of it.

Because he also has a wife and children, and a series of problems at work.

He couldn't possibly have the energy for that.

If there is love between you, he can overcome it, because they are your dear parents.

As a result, repressive education forces children to grow up from childhood.

Do you think that thing can provide you with support in your old age?

So I say that today's parents need to change their mindset. Times have changed, and the older generation's education methods have too many drawbacks.

Isn't this the truth, brothers?
How can two only children provide for four elderly people in their old age?

To put it harshly,

Nowadays, when people go on blind dates, they always ask: "Do your parents have pension?"

All right,

After pushing your children all their lives, you finally find that you are the one holding them back.

No money, no love.

The child begins to hate you.

Even if he has money and energy, he won't spend it on you.

So it is better to force yourself than to force your children.

In this way, you have both love and money.

I can't say I can save a lot, but at least I won't be a burden to my children.
Parents have relatively good savings, so they can take care of their retirement money first.

What do you think the child will be like in the end? Will he be successful or not? Anyway, we are from an ordinary family. I can understand that the child is not as good as others.
No matter how good your performance is, how good your grades are, or how excellent you are, when you come back, your parents will cook your favorite food for you.

We are just ordinary people, I just love children more.

Having family and love is enough. Don't mess around all day and make yourself tired.

Let's be honest.

People in today's society are already very tired, it's really unnecessary."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"How can two only children provide for four elderly people? This is a soul-stirring question (thumbs-up)."

"It's very true. I went on a blind date last month and the first thing the other person asked was whether your parents had any retirement funds (grin)."

"I pushed my child all his life, but in the end I found that I was the one holding him back (laughing to death)."

"I am an urban husband, but my husband is from the countryside. I am a single mother with a pension, and my husband's parents have agricultural insurance, which is more than 1000 yuan a year. Even so, my mother-in-law still says that my husband is pitiful for having to support three elderly people."

"My eldest brother is right. It is better to focus on yourself than on your children. So while I was taking care of my child full-time, I taught myself illustration. Now that my child is in school, I draw illustrations at home to earn some pocket money for myself."

You are a good mother.

Learn from you.

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "Look at this barrage, some people said they understood, but there are still many old people in their 40s who came up to scold me.

Everyone is asking me why I am not considerate of my parents?

Saying that my values ​​are not correct.

I was convinced too.

When these people come up to the microphone, they are willing to listen if you teach them how to deal with their children, how to torture their children, and how to make their children better.

But if you ask them to work more, earn more money, and provide better resources for their children, 10 out of 9 parents will not want to hear it.

People say you can’t understand our difficulties, we are just ordinary people.

You are just an ordinary person. The resources you can provide for your children are not as many as others. Why do you require your children to be as good as other people's children?
Don't transfer your anxiety to your children.

Don't say that you are incompetent and you are very anxious. Then transfer this anxiety to your child, making him anxious as well.

If you are anxious you will succeed.

Then he would have succeeded a long time ago.

Why are there so many failed parents and miserable children?

You must realize that anxiety cannot solve any problems; it will only magnify conflicts.

You always demand that your children be better, so how good should they be to be considered good?
You have to allow yourself to be yourself and allow others to be themselves.

Do you understand? "

On the barrage.

"It's good enough to have a child... I'm really crying."

"Big brother is really a model father for Douyin children (thumbs-up)."

"Such a good anchor, why do you want to smear him (I don't understand)."

"They love to listen to their elder brother's teachings and tossing their children around, but they curse when he asks parents to work more hours."

"Because it's easier to push your kids (sunglasses) than to push yourself."

A hit!

. . . . . . .

"Brother, why doesn't my child like to talk to me?"

A highly praised comment flashed by.

Lin Feng rolled his eyes: "I'm not a fucking fortune teller, you don't have any information, and you come up and ask why your child doesn't like to talk to you, how would I know?
But I would like to extend your topic and ask the friend who asked the question to see if he has these problems.

In life, have you ever found that children whose parents are more able to respect their children's individual consciousness tend to be more polite, more sensible, and relatively more expressive?

I don't know if you have ever seen many parents buying food for their children or bringing food to them at the gate of a primary school after school.

Generally speaking, mothers are more gentle. For example, they will give snacks to their children after buying them. Children will usually say thank you to them.

It's just the normal way two people would express themselves.

But some children don't say anything after taking snacks from their mothers.

why?
Because you clearly bought food for him, and you just let him eat it, but some mothers still have to scold him.
All you do every day is eat. Have you finished your homework? How did you do in the exam?
If you insist on saying something to him, the child will certainly not want to talk to you.

I'm going to get scolded anyway, so I might as well eat first.

So he is relatively less expressive.

Anyway, you can keep scolding me, and you scold me every time I eat, so I will automatically block your words.

Maybe your child can't hear you when you call him.

Because once your voice is heard, he knows that something bad is going to happen and he will be scolded, so he will often automatically block you.

Sometimes, children share their joy with you, for example, they are very happy today and have finished their homework and are very happy.

You see, once your child is happy, you start talking again. You finish your homework so quickly. Take the two test papers over there and do them.
It's like you don't allow your child to be happy.

Then he will definitely gradually become unwilling to share happiness with you.

I don’t know if you can understand, but many people cannot be happy and cheerful in front of their parents, and this is a big problem.

The child has obviously finished his homework happily and can go out to play, but you immediately sign him up for an interest class, thinking that this time is wasted and needs to be made up.

It's rare to be a little happy. You will be happy based on your grades.

It's always this conversation.

So many parents ask why their children are unwilling to communicate with them?

Is it the rebellious phase?

In fact, if you think about it carefully, the problem may not really be with the child.

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"You look so happy, how did you get on the test? (grin)"

"All I do is eat. Have I finished my homework? (covering my face)."

"Oh my god, I'm already 28 and this horrible memory came back to me instantly (speechless)."

"I'm going to scold you anyway, so I'll eat first. This mental state, hahahaha."

"Really, that's how I am. I've been blocking it out of habit since elementary school."

"It's over. I realized my problem. I just can't stand my son sitting around doing his homework."

It feels like an epiphany.

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Many parents just can’t bear to see their children happy, as if they can only feel at ease if their children are always in a state of suffering.

Cough,

I have said too much, brothers.

never mind,

Let’s leave this topic here.

Immediately, he accused me of stirring up conflicts among children in the family.

Some even said they would report me.

I'm afraid I'm afraid.

Let's hurry up and take the next one." (End of this chapter)