I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 298 People in this society cannot survive without lying

Raymond Lam: "Really brothers,

It takes some effort to raise a child.

If a father always uses an authoritarian approach in his education, there will be a generation gap between him and his children.

It was like I was afraid my dad would beat me, so I pretended to be dead.

Then my dad cried.

Thinking about it now, I feel touched.

But at the time, I was fucking scared.

I thought to myself, I’m done for now. If I woke up at this moment, my dad would beat me to death.

Why did I think so at that time?

It’s because my dad is used to beating me.

So guys,
You might as well put your child in your shoes.

Why do you think your children lie?
Is it possible that before he lied, his real needs were rejected by you?

Even after I told you about it, you scolded me or beat me.

If he tells the truth and you can understand it, the child doesn't need to hide his thoughts and he will tell you the truth.

For example, a child steals money.

I think many brothers have done this when they were young.

You say I steal money because I am morally corrupt?

no.

I'm just greedy and want to buy some spicy noodles.

The first time I might ask you, Dad, give me two cents so I can buy some spicy noodles.

What do dads usually say?
Oh, that junk food is unhealthy. What are you eating? Go home and do your homework.

So you say that children know what is junk food and what is not. They think it smells good and tastes good.

All the other kids ate it, but he didn't.

He was so greedy that he just stole the money.

After you found out, you asked him if he had stolen the money. How could he dare to let you know that he had bought spicy strips? You said that the stuff was junk food and should not be eaten.

The child said he didn’t steal it.

All right,

In your opinion, the child not only stole money, but also lied.

There was a loud clacking sound.

So after you scold him, he won’t be greedy anymore?

Next time he feels greedy, he will steal again.

As a result, you said the sky fell and the child was beyond saving, which was a lie.

Have you ever thought about this: whenever you find out that he is lying, wouldn’t you beat him up first and ask him clearly why he stole the money and what he wanted the money for?
You should talk to him nicely.

When he saw that his dad didn't beat me and was in a good attitude, he told you to buy some spicy strips.

it is good,
Now that things are clear,

The child is just greedy and wants to eat some spicy noodles.

But you think that stuff is junk food and you can't eat it all the time.

Then you provide a solution.

You said, son, your dad didn’t let you eat spicy strips before because they are indeed junk food and are bad for your health.

But, it’s actually okay to eat this thing occasionally.

Since my son likes it, how about I buy it for you once a week?
When the child hears this, he will happily hug your neck and kiss you, saying, "Dad, you are so good, you are the best dad in the world."

By then you won’t need to say anything, the child will admit his mistake on his own and will never steal money or lie again.

So when the child has a problem, solve his problem and meet his needs.

He can get the problem solved by telling the truth, so why would he lie?"

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Who would lie if the truth can be understood and resolved?"

“I loved lying when I was a kid, but I lied to avoid being beaten and scolded by my mother. As a result, the more I lied, the more I got beaten. The more I was beaten, the more scared I became. The more scared I became, the more I lied.

The military advisor is right. When you encounter a child lying, adults should think about whether the child is lying to escape from something or to attract your attention. "

"No one is perfect, but parents are unwilling to forgive their children's small mistakes and want their children to be perfect (dog head)."

Clicked.

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Lin Feng: "When children lie, it is natural for parents to be angry, but from then on you close the door to communication.

I saw someone on the public screen saying that it was completely useless, and that the child was getting mad at him every day. No matter how he taught, it was useless and the child was getting worse.

There are also people who say that I hate children who lie the most.

Not bro,

Since it’s so difficult to teach, just beat me.

Fight to death!
It's not my child anyway.

I hate liars the most.

What are you bragging about?

Come,
The brother in the room lied when he was a child, so give me a 1.

never mind,

Let’s not lie when we were kids. If you still lie now, deduct 1 from me.”

Next second,
The screen is full of 11111.

Raymond Lam: “Look, everyone has lied.

Let's be honest.

There is nothing wrong with lying in itself.

You know what the biggest problem is?

You are extremely sensitive about this matter.

Oh, I can tolerate other things except lying. I hate liars the most.

Dude,

Stop pretending, okay?

You are just acting like the parent you think you are.

Your over-the-top attitude will only make the lying matter more serious and eventually cause huge emotional harm.

See how many people deducted 1 on the public screen.

I tell you,
People cannot survive in this society without lying.

Don't say that you can never raise a child who doesn't lie, even if you succeed.

I tell you, your child is also ruined.

I won't lie.

When he gets eaten up by society in the future and nothing is left of him, you will cry.

Anyway, I have told you the truth, whether you listen to it or not is none of my business."

Next person!
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor!"

It's a girl.

Lin Feng: "What's the matter, sister? Is there any problem?"

Woman: "I have a problem with the child, too."

Lin Feng held his forehead with his hand and said with a wry smile: "Okay, tell me."

Woman: "My child is 15 years old and is obsessed with his cell phone. What should I do?"

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and said, "15 years old, puberty.

The reason for being obsessed with mobile phones is mostly because real life is not as exciting as the Internet.

It is July now and the children are on summer vacation. It is normal for him to play games with a few good friends.

If you see that he is not feeling well, take him out to play, do something meaningful, such as taking him hiking.
But he's 15 now, so he probably doesn't want to play with you anymore."

Woman: "Yeah, he just doesn't want to play with me now."

Lin Feng: "Yes, I feel it is meaningless now."

Woman: "But I found out that he was looking at adult stuff."

Adult stuff?
Lin Feng raised his eyebrows: "Sister-in-law, how did you know?"

Woman: “I just discovered it by accident.”

Lin Feng and Yu Huanshui looked at each other, smiled and said, "It's normal. He's already in puberty at the age of 15. Give him some space."

Woman: "Do you want to expose him?"

Are you crazy?
Lin Feng said seriously: "Don't expose him, we have all been through that age, it's harmless to take a look, just don't hurt your body too much.

Let me tell you,

He is in adolescence now and doesn't need you as a mother. He needs a Japanese mother, understand?"

Uh. .

. . . . . . On the barrage.

"Puberty needs a Japanese mom, FUCK hahahahahaha."

"I think mom still has her charm (dog head)."

Hahahaha.

"Let me introduce you to my Japanese mommy: Kijima Ai Li Bu Li (yyds)."

“F*ck, he just ignored me, hahahahaha it made me laugh to death.”

"Promise me you won't steal from convenience stores anymore, don't go on business trips or hide from the rain with your annoying supervisor, and don't get too close to your father-in-law (crying)."

"Don't go to a party with all the guys with your boyfriend, and don't drink with your old boss (sunglasses)."

"Summarize the plot?"

"It's over, I understand (covering my face)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Woman: "What if I want to expose him?"

Raymond Lam: “Fuck you… the child is 15 years old, at this age you have to knock on the door before entering the room.

Not sister-in-law,

Why are you like a pervert?
It’s normal for your son to be interested at that age!”

Woman: "But he's getting worse."

Raymond Lam: "What the hell has gone bad?

Didn’t you learn this in your high school biology textbook?

All boys are like this at this age.

How bad can he get?
You and your elder brother have done him a disservice, and you don't call him a bad guy. How bad can he be?"

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"You and your elder brother have done him a disservice, and you don't call him a bad guy. How bad can he be? (dog head)."

"Nothing wrong with it, he has done it himself, how can you not understand it after saying this." "I am dying of laughter, this blogger's words are so funny, I can't find an adjective, it's just so funny."

"This is what we call appreciation by both the elite and the masses (covering face)."

Yes.

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Woman: “Would you like to put away your phone?”

Lin Feng: "Don't, the more you suppress desire, the more you will think about it, and the more likely it is to become abnormal.

Instead, you lead them to normal channels, which is very normal.

I said, as a mother and a girl, you shouldn’t talk to him too much at this time. Ask the child’s father to talk to him and tell him that this is normal.”

Woman: "It's a boy, not a girl."

Raymond Lam: "Nonsense, if it's a girl, can I ask her to be my dad?

It must be a boy.

Men understand men, and his father understands everything about him.

Who the hell is in high school? He’s fifteen or sixteen years old. He doesn’t watch these things.

Not sister-in-law,

You seem like a pervert.

I told you to let the kid's father go and talk to him, why are you asking me so many questions?
Please stay away from your son, please."

Well. . .

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"You look like a pervert. I fainted from laughing. Haha."

"I am dying of laughter. I am also the mother of a 15-year-old boy. I didn't dare to say anything when I found out, for fear that my child would know (covering face)."

"This woman really wants to stop the child, I am also convinced (grin)."

"Let her do this, and he will be happy if his son likes boys again."

"The military advisor told Dad to go talk, but she still wants to intervene."

"Please stay away from your son. I beg you. The military advisor was speechless."

Hahahahaha.

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Woman: "How do you guide me?"

Raymond Lam: "I won't say anything. Ask his dad to talk to him. It's normal to be curious at this age, but after all, he still has to focus on his studies. Ask his dad to talk to him. Don't go and talk to him. A 15-year-old boy, aren't you embarrassed?"

Woman: "I think he just plays with his phone too much."

Lin Feng: "No, sister-in-law, how can I explain it to you?

This isn't a problem with the phone, it's a normal development process for a man, do you understand?

Please stay away from him, I beg you.

This thing cannot be suppressed, you know. The more you suppress it, the more perverted it becomes.

never mind,

I can't explain it to you clearly.

Is Big Brother home? Give me the phone, I want to talk to you."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"This mother seems to be uneducated. The military advisor has already talked about the normal development process of human beings, but she keeps talking about the problem of mobile phones (grin)."

"It feels like she just wants to be in control. She's too controlling."

"Can you please stay away from him? I am almost speechless."

"Really, isn't mom embarrassed?"

"When my son was 17, he always locked his door. I couldn't help being anxious and kept wanting to peek at his phone. I confiscated it, but I didn't do anything about it. I just vaguely suggested that he shouldn't browse unhealthy websites. Now he's 20, nothing has happened to him, he's active, healthy and happy."

"I don't care about my son. I let him have his own space. I find some videos about physical health on Douyin and send them to him so that he can understand them himself."

"By the way, give the child space and guide him normally."

"It's better to let the father have barbecue and drink with his son, and talk to him about hygiene, focusing on study, and having other healthy interests, and respecting and protecting women. Don't worry about other things. Suppressing them will lead to abnormal psychology and crime."

"So my brother reminded her several times, but the more she suppressed herself, the more abnormal she became, as if she couldn't understand what he was saying."

. . . . . .

Woman: "Okay, wait a minute, I'll go call my husband."

While waiting, Lin Feng said to the live studio: “This sister-in-law is just too nosy.

Whatever the hell you learn, you'll become a bad person.

In ancient times, a 15-year-old man was already the father of two children.

No kidding, guys.

Let’s not talk about the distant past, let’s take the recent Qing Dynasty as an example.

Emperor Shunzhi became a father at the age of 14.
Kangxi also became a father at the age of 12.

Yongzheng became a father at the age of 16.

Jiaqing became a father at the age of 15.

Daoguang became a father at the age of 13.

At this age, he is still a child in the junior high school classroom.

In ancient times, girls were called the age of Doukou at 13 and the age of Jiji at 15. Generally, they could get married at this age.

Sima Yan of the Jin Dynasty stipulated that if a girl was not married by the age of 17, local officials could force her to marry off.

Emperor Daizong of Tang, Li Shimin, stipulated that if a girl was not married at the age of 15, the government would give her a betrothal gift and arrange her marriage.

So it's normal to be curious about that at the age of 15.

This is not about whether or not to learn bad things, this is the normal sexual impulse of human beings.

If you insist on suppressing it, that is against human nature.”

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Becoming a father at the age of 13, Kangxi is so awesome (covering face)."

"I gave birth to a child at the age of 30, which was considered old age in ancient times (grin)."

"Zhong Yao had a son at the age of seventy, it's okay."

"Is that yours (dog head)?"

Hahahaha.

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"Hello, host!"