I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 212 My Internet Mom

On the barrage.

“In conclusion: spiritual sustenance can be anything, but not a person.”

"You can trust someone, or you can rely on them, but try not to take it as everything, although I also envy the kind of love that relies on and complements each other (sigh)."

"No one in this world can rely on anyone else. Don't rely too much on others. Everyone has their own difficulties. If you really want to rely on others, don't rely too much or too deeply."

aweason!
"God helps those who help themselves. This saying has reminded me thousands of times (crying to death)."

"truth!"

"No, what kind of buffet is this? Is it delicious? How much is it per person (dog head)?"

You are such a stubborn guy!
Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

The girl started crying.

Lin Feng shook his head and said, "Forget it, tell me where you met."

"I had an argument with my dad at the time, and then I went out to work. This person was my boss at the time."

Raymond Lam: "How old is he?"

"Twelve years older than me."

Lin Feng smiled.

Code!
So classic!
Even the fucking textbooks are not as classic as you.

You are 17 and he is 30.

It's complete emotional deception!

Married for three years.

You are now 20 and the other party is 33.

You haven't got your marriage certificate yet?
Girl: "Yes, I didn't get the certificate."

What the hell are they talking about?

Raymond Lam: "Even if the Buddha came, he couldn't save you, sister!"

The girl was silent again.

Raymond Lam: "If you don't have children, it's actually a good thing not to get a marriage certificate. Cut your losses in time and run away.

The key is that you have a child now, and your interests are not protected by law.

My sister,
You played this card badly!"

Girls crying.

“@军师, there are many people online who encourage girls to have children without getting a marriage certificate, and they list many advantages.”

Someone @林峰 on the public screen.

Lin Feng took a look and sneered, "What are the advantages?"

"Does this mean that regardless of whether or not a marriage is registered, as long as a child is born, the man has the obligation to raise the child?
And even if they get divorced in the end, it doesn’t count as a second marriage?
If I get the marriage certificate, I will be tied up and killed, right?"

"Yes, that's right!"

Lin Feng smiled: "Then let me ask you a question, do you have a car? Do you have a house? Do you have a job?"

The other party was stunned for a moment.

Lin Feng said angrily: "Sister, not all chicken soups can be drunk. You must have the ability to judge things independently. The situation you mentioned does exist, and for some groups, the benefits do outweigh the disadvantages.

But do you know what group that is?

Any female group that agrees to get married without getting a marriage certificate must be those who are financially independent, independent in thought, and even have an advantage over men in terms of material level.

They have the money and ability to afford the real costs of having and raising children.

At the same time, their hearts are strong enough.
I don't have too many expectations or fantasies about men in terms of relationships.

They are confident!

What do you have?

She has no job, no income, no heart, and even after the divorce she always says she can't bear to leave her children.

If you don't even have a marriage certificate, you're really useless."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Summary: I have no idea what kind of person I am."

What the hell!

"I'm heartbroken, old iron!"

"Really? I have my own car and house, and my parents support me as an only child. We held a wedding banquet, but we didn't get a marriage certificate. In my opinion, a marriage certificate can't bind anyone. If he wants to leave, he can leave. Is there no other man in the world?"

"Yes. I'm the only daughter in the family and I've bought a house myself. I really don't want to get married and end up with nothing. It's worth it if I squander it all my life by myself and die. I don't need to leave it to anyone."

"Yes, financially independent girls are actually more afraid of being schemed against by others."

"I have also seen similar videos and almost believed them. The military advisor is really sharp-tongued. Listening to his lectures always makes people suddenly sober."

"So girls who are not financially independent and mentally strong should never learn this. Otherwise, if you suffer a loss and come back, the military advisor will scold you (dog head)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Raymond Lam: "What is your husband's attitude now?"

Girl: "That's what I want to ask. He found a woman, and then the woman's boyfriend came to me and sent me all the evidence, including the hotel booking record."

Lin Feng: "Did that girl's boyfriend come to see you?"

"Yes, he sent me all the evidence, including the recording of the voice call. He had to admit it because the facts were in front of him. But there were some things he still refused to admit."

Lin Feng: “What things?”

"Just transfer money, red envelope or something like that."

Lin Feng: "Don't worry about it, because there is no point in worrying about it. You didn't get a marriage certificate. No matter how much he spent on others, it has nothing to do with you. You can't get it back."

Girl: “...Oh.”

Lin Feng: “Anything else?”

"Yes, it's just a joke. He said he only met that girl once last year, but that boy said they met often or something."

Lin Feng: "Do I need to think about this? It must be your husband who lied. Not your sister. I don't care about these messes. Just tell me, after the truth was revealed, did he realize his mistake?"

Girl: "He can't feel wrong."

Raymond Lam: "It's just a perfunctory attitude?"

"correct."

Lin Feng laughed angrily.

He turned around and looked at Yu Huanshui and asked, "Brother Shui, do you have any good suggestions?"

Yu Huanshui looked melancholy, sighed and shook his head.

Lin Feng said helplessly: "Sister, this is a mistake you made when you started a marriage at the age of 17, and now you have to bear the consequences."

It's cruel!
But that's the reality.

"I want to emphasize again here that girls who come from bad families should never pray to save themselves through marriage.

You must make yourself strong before you can move forward and backward freely.

I said it a little harshly,
You get married to make a living, it's really miserable.

A foot massage costs several hundred yuan.

No one can achieve a lifetime of effortless happiness by avoiding growing up.

I said before that your father doesn't love you and your mother doesn't care about you, so you have to raise yourself again.

How to raise it?
Just become independent first, cut off all toxic relationships, then do laundry, cooking, and cleaning like a child, and slowly start to raise yourself.

Raise yourself like a child.

Read children's picture books with yourself.

Play games with yourself.

Buy a bicycle and ride it.

Take a hike outdoors with yourself.

Look at yourself and say to yourself, baby, look how green the tree is and how blue the sky is.

Buy yourself a ball and go play on the grass.

Read books with yourself and cook three meals a day for yourself.

Swing by yourself.

Encourage yourself and praise yourself from the bottom of your heart.

Say baby this is great.

Buy yourself an ice cream treat.

Autosuggestion.

Treat yourself like a child and raise yourself again.

Replace the bad model of raising you that your parents used to have.

Because deep down we have always longed for care and encouragement, but we have never received it from our parents, and we all feel very lacking.

But from now on, you will accompany yourself, and when you have enough energy in your heart, you will find that you can not only love others, but you can also be loved.

This is a skill you truly have mastered.

Instead of crying out every day, who will help me, who will save me.

Like a hungry little bird.

So, is the person you attract at this time really here to save you?

wrong.

It's here to eat you.

When you know how to get along with yourself, you will see the wounds on other people's bodies and realize that everyone is equally weak.

Then you won't be harsh on others. Because you are tolerant of yourself, you won't be harsh on others.

Your interpersonal relationships will become smoother as you learn to nurture yourself.

Because you can understand the language behind other people's behavior.

So first learn to raise yourself.”

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Raise Yourself Again" and "Replace the Bad Childhood Memories"

my God!

"I feel like crying when I hear this."

"I am both an adult and a child."

"Because the child in many people's hearts has not grown up yet, helpless and cowardly (crying)."

"When I heard 'baby', my eyes started to get sore."

"I suddenly realized that apart from others, I have never loved myself (crying to death)."

“It’s not too late. The child in your heart did not grow up in childhood and stayed there waiting for you to pay attention to him and comfort him.”

Ahhhh, I'm crying!
"Military Advisor is really my Internet mother, woooo."

"Why not Dad?"

"Because my dad is still alive, but my mom is gone (dog head)."

You,

"Military Advisor: Thank you (smile)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "Let me ask again, did he pay any price when he married you?"

"He didn't, because he just started a business outside."

Lin Feng: "You don't have any of the three golds or anything like that?"

"No."

Lin Feng: "Do you have a house now?"

"There was a house that was being renovated, and things were going in a good direction, and then this happened. Military Advisor, I want to know what he was thinking now."

Lin Feng: "What else can I think? Isn't it just putting you at home, ensuring that the red flag at home is not falling, and the colorful flags are flying outside, to achieve the kind of male achievement between two women?

I tell you, he has no sense of loyalty to your love and marriage. He only wants you to give birth to his children and let him have a wife, because you have the lowest cost and the highest cost performance. "

Girl: "So he has no feelings for me at all?"

Raymond Lam: "This kind of feeling does not affect him from continuing to look for other people outside."

"He told me that he didn't like that woman and that he had broken up with her."

Raymond Lam: "If you cut off the relationship completely, the other person's boyfriend won't come looking for you."

"But he said he only met once, and that evidence is nothing."

Lin Feng: "If that were the case, the other person's boyfriend wouldn't have come to find you."

"but..."

Lin Feng frowned: "Don't say but, or I'll get tired of you."

The girl was silent.

Lin Feng shook his head and said, "Sister, I can't give you any advice about your marriage.

This is the wrong order of your life,

It is the price I pay for the mistakes I made when I was young and ignorant.”

Girl: “Yeah, I understand.”

Lin Feng: "I suggest you consult a lawyer to see how to protect your rights in this situation."

Girl: "I have consulted, and they said there is no solution."

Lin Feng was helpless: "Yes, because you didn't get the marriage certificate.

The key is the fact that marriage is a marriage that people in mountainous areas and rural areas did not have the awareness of obtaining marriage certificates in the past.
The previous de facto marriage had some effect.

But now, common-law marriages are no longer protected.
He only has responsibility for the children.

I have no responsibility for you!"

The girl was silent again.

Apparently what Lin Feng said was the same as what she had heard from the lawyer.

Lin Feng: "Sister, to be honest, I actually have a lot of bad things to teach you, but after thinking about it, I think it's unnecessary.

You are only 20 years old.
There is no need to waste your wonderful life on such people.

No matter what you decide later.

Should I leave him or continue to endure it?

That's your choice.

I don't comment.

I have only one suggestion for you, find a job and make yourself financially independent first.”

Girl: "Okay! I'll go find a job tomorrow!"

Lin Feng sighed softly: "It's never too late to listen to advice, come on, sister."

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam said to the live studio:
“This sister represents a type of people.

Rural families,

Lack of fatherly love,

Growing up being scolded and controlled,

A typical child who grew up in a loveless environment.

Since childhood, my father didn't love me, my mother didn't care about me.
When you meet a man and say a few nice words to him, such as "Come with me and I will take care of you for the rest of your life", they don't understand you, but I do. I will buy you a ticket and you come to find me.

Normal people might roll their eyes at these words.

But for those who are extremely lacking in love, these are very sweet words of love.

It makes people angry and helpless.

I know there are many people in this room who may not understand, but that’s because you live very happy lives.

As a child who grew up in a loveless environment, I was particularly eager to be recognized and praised.
But I didn’t get any.

Do you think that if I can't have it, I don't want it?
Do not,
This will become the greatest desire.

I didn’t get a single cent when I was a child, so I will get ten of them back when I grow up.

So who would I ask?
I want it no matter who gives it to me.

Everyone can be my creditor.

When I was a child, my parents owed me. Now the whole world owes me.
Suddenly one day I met a scumbag. Scumbags are particularly likely to give emotional value, because they know what you want, so they will care about you a little bit.

I rushed into it like a moth to a flame,

The so-called killing of Zhu, PUA, even a blind person can see it.

But she rushed over like a moth to a flame,

why?
I am so lacking in love.

What right do others have to say anything about me? What right do my parents have to say anything about me?
You didn't give me anything when I was young, but now there is someone who regards me as the most important thing in his life, but you tell me that he is lying to me. I don't want to believe it.

So like a moth to a flame, it just flew towards it.

So some people, if you really want to have a child, can you please take some responsibility?
Depend on!"

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Five years ago, I almost left with someone like this. At that time, I had extremely low self-esteem and no one liked me. Fortunately, I managed to get through it on my own."

"Me too, because I feel unworthy, so I was very touched when someone wanted me. God knows I was willing to have sex with that ill-intentioned man just because I could take a hot shower in the hotel (crying to death)."

"I suddenly understand why they say that daughters should be raised in wealth, otherwise you will think it is a blessing if others are nice to you."

"The most important thing about raising a rich child is spiritual nourishment, giving her an independent personality and self-esteem. Ultimately, it's all about love!"

Clicked!

"Really? You'll find that some little princesses raised in wealthy families also run away with Huang Mao."

“Mostly love!”

"And love never flows to those who lack love (laughing to death)."

"Fuck! There's no solution!"

"There is a solution. The military advisor has handed it over to us. We have to raise ourselves and fill up our own energy."

understood!

"The baby is awesome. I watched Douyin for another day (applause)."

"Sister, spoiling is not okay (dog head)."

what?
Hahahahaha.

Attached

[Military advisor’s comments: You have lacked love and have low self-esteem since childhood, and you also long for love.

When you are wronged, there is no father to stand up for you.

There is no mother to guide you carefully.
No one backs you up.

These people are like weeds, firmly creating a safe haven for yourself, working hard and hot.

So much so that if someone from the outside world reaches out to you, you won’t be able to tell whether they are human or ghost. 】

(End of this chapter)