Daddy Academy

Chapter 2971 Two Problem Girls
"Look at this tree again." The female doctor pointed at the tree drawn by Xier and analyzed it to Zhang Tan and Tan Jiner, "The branches are thick, the leaves are dense, there are many branches, and there are several bird nests on the tree. But you see, the trunk is hollow! The leaves, branches and bird nests can all be seen as her wanting to provide shelter for others, but her own ability is seriously insufficient. In other words, Xier is very loving and a warm child, but her kindness often exceeds her ability, which will hurt herself..."

Zhang Tan and Tan Jin'er listened very carefully, and Tan Jin'er looked nervous.

The female doctor went on to say, "Speaking of people, Xier draws stick figures, but they are a little different from ordinary stick figures. Their heads are all very big and their proportions are seriously out of balance. The big head can be understood as a kind of inferiority complex deep in her heart. She needs to make up for her small and weak body through an exaggerated head..."

A tiny and weak body? Tan Jin'er thought to herself, how could Xi'er have such a mentality?

She looked at Xier who was watching TV not far away, and saw that the three children were very serious and their eyes were fixed on the show. Xier always had a smile on her face and looked very sunny.

The female doctor seemed to sense her emotions and said, "I just talked about some bad aspects. Now let's talk about the good side. In fact, there are many good aspects. You can see that there is a big sun in this painting. The sun is shining and the sky is clear. This shows that Xier's heart is very sunny and there is no psychological disease. The family environment is really important. Many children with physical neglect problems are generally in a low mood. Many are depressed and introverted..."

Tan Jiner said: "I have a heart-to-heart talk with my sister every night. She tells me everything."

After saying this, she suddenly thought that Xier didn't tell her everything, such as the psychological problems she observed today and her inner anxiety.

The female doctor explained: "It's not necessarily that Xier didn't tell you these things. She may not have deliberately concealed them, but she herself didn't know and didn't notice them. She is still too young."

These words made Tan Jiner feel a little better.

"What should we do next?" asked Tan Jiner.

"To eliminate her deep-seated feelings of inferiority and guilt and to make her face herself, we need to focus on two aspects: one is relationship reconstruction, and the other is physical reconstruction."

Zhang Tan and Tan Jin'er were confused by these professional terms.

The female doctor continued, "The so-called relationship reconstruction is to invite you to participate in Xier's treatment. You can help Xier eliminate her inner inferiority and guilt through sincere exchanges. For example, you should frankly admit that the pressure comes from life, not Xier. You need to let Xier exchange with you sincerely. You don't need to achieve it all at once, but you need to slowly approach her inner heart and take the initiative to initiate relevant topics. Don't worry, I will have a detailed process to teach you how to do it. More importantly, you should establish common life goals, such as working together to buy a house as your own home, and decorate this home warmly and comfortably. Remember, you must work together to achieve this goal. You must let Xier feel involved. She must participate wholeheartedly. Her opinions must be adopted and her voice must be valued."

Tan Jin'er couldn't help but think of the new home they had just moved into not long ago. They had basically no part in the decoration. As for the decoration of the house, except for Xier's own small room, she did everything else by herself without asking Xier's opinion.

She still remembered that day when Xier chased her and asked her if she could put a bunch of flowers here, or a few more dolls there, or if she could put the photo of her and Xiaobai on the refrigerator, etc.

She adopted some of the suggestions and did not adopt some, and she did not explain to Xier the ones she did not adopt.

Maybe the little girl was really disappointed, but she just didn't say it.

Thinking of this, Tan Jiner couldn't help but feel ashamed that she had so many shortcomings in her life.

Seeing that she was silent, Zhang Tan asked, "What does body reconstruction mean?"

The female doctor said, "It is to let Xier rebuild her love for food and her body. For example, you can introduce a 'nourishing diary' and record the taste of a food every day, with the key words 'this is my sister's love for me'. For example, the warmth of rice is equal to the temperature of my sister's palm. Create more such diaries and let the feeling of food be equal to my sister's love. In this way, Xier will gradually rebuild her love for food. Another way is to design a 'sister recipe'. The two of you can cook dishes that symbolize 'connection' together, such as traditional food from your hometown. Take Xier to cook together and make delicious food together."

Zhang Tan immediately thought of Tuanzi.

Xier’s favorite dumpling.

"Tuanzi?" Tan Jiner couldn't help but speak out. The first person she thought of was Tuanzi.

The female doctor smiled and said, "Of course dumplings are fine, but it would be best if they have special meaning."

Tan Jiner nodded and understood.

The female doctor said, "I will give you a manual later. You can refer to it and ask me if you don't understand. Although the manual is very detailed, the actual operation process varies from person to person and from environment to environment. Every child is unique, and the situations they encounter are also unique. There are no universal rules. The key is to touch the child's inner world."

"Touching the child's inner world?" Tan Jiner thought thoughtfully.

"Yes, you think you have entered her world, but it's not necessarily the case. You have to feel it carefully."

"...Okay, I'll do it."

Tan Jiner's tone was firm.

At this time, the female doctor suddenly looked at Zhang Tan, her face a little serious and said: "Having talked about Xier, let's talk about Xiaobai now."

Zhang Tan was stunned: "Ah? Xiaobai?"

He didn't react for a moment. No, isn't this for Xier to see? Why are they suddenly talking about Xiaobai? Does Xiaobai also have psychological problems?

The female doctor nodded: "Yes, I think it is necessary to explain it to you clearly. There are some problems with Xiaobai's painting just now. Do you want to listen to it?"

Zhang Tan thought of the 'House, Tree and Man' that Xiaobai had just drawn. Apart from being a bit abstract, he didn't think it was anything special.

"What's wrong with that picture?" he asked.

The female doctor took Xiaobai's painting out of the folder, spread it on the coffee table and said, "I don't have a deep understanding of Xiaobai, unlike Xier, so it's hard to make inferences. I can only speak based on this painting. Please understand if there are any mistakes."

She had done a lot of research on Xier and had a long and detailed chat with Tan Jiner the day before, so she was able to interpret a lot of things from Xier's paintings today.

However, she did not have a detailed understanding of Xiaobai, and interpreting him only through the paintings was bound to lead to over-interpretation or inadequate interpretation.

This needs to be explained in advance.

Zhang Tan expressed his understanding: "Just say it."

The female doctor said, "There is one thing in Xiaobai's paintings that is very similar to Xier's, that is, there are bird nests on the trees, and there are quite a lot of them. This symbolizes that deep in her heart she wants to provide shelter for others very much, and this emotion is even stronger than Xier's."