My 1995 Small Farm.

Chapter 766 Children’s Education
Coincidentally, it was December, and all the young people who had worked in the village returned home.

For example, Chen Yuqiang and Chen Ze have a good relationship with Chen Ling.

Upon returning, I was immediately taken aback by the changes in the village.

At the reservoir near the village entrance, a ditch has been dug to build a cultural wall. The Wang family on the slope has built such a large foundation and is working hard.

In the east of the village, there are now a few more greenhouses.

Many houses are decorated with lanterns and colorful streamers, and red paper for weddings and betrothal gifts and red list of monetary gifts are still pasted on the walls.

This guy, with all these different items, really dazzled them.

I've only been away for three or four months, and everyone in the village is already this rich?!
When I got home and asked around, I found out that Chen Ling had found a new way for the village to make money this autumn.

Mountain produce can be sold to the city, and wild fruits can be sold to the cannery in Huangni Town...

The villagers' pockets are bulging this year.

For example, Chen Yuqiang's family has many uncles and brothers, such as Chen Yubin and his brothers. They go into the mountains together, and with the furs and other things they hunt, the money they have earned from the mountains this year is no less than what they would have earned working elsewhere.

Upon hearing this, Chen Yuqiang and the others immediately regretted their actions.

I wish I hadn't gone to work.

Working away from home is hard work and requires a lot of physical effort; it's never as comfortable as staying at home.

At that time, ordinary people could not earn much money by going out to work. The most lucrative job was carrying heavy loads, which included food, but the daily income was only forty or fifty yuan.

Adding to this, we're about to enter 1998, a year marked by a wave of unemployment.

Wages outside the local area are also not doing well.

"I've made up my mind. I won't go out next year. I'll stay at home and focus on making our family's noodles."

Chen Yuqiang gritted his teeth and prepared to return to his old ways.

With his brother Chen Yingqiang's mill around, it's very convenient for them to make noodles and mixed noodles.

In short, it's all about small profits and quick turnover.

"Yes, I'm also planning to do something and not go out anymore. Fugui said back in the spring that he wouldn't be raising chickens and ducks at the farm next year."

They say having too many children and having so much to do at home is a hassle.

I'd like to find a different place to raise them.

We'll see how things go then. Wherever he goes, I'll go too, and I'll raise him there.

Anyway, I really don't want to raise cattle like these people in the village.

"Raising cattle is such a slow way to make money."

Chen Ze was a little envious when he heard about the money his family had saved up this autumn.

That's when I realized why so many families in the village were getting married this year.

It seems that Chenwangzhuang is about to become rich and popular.

"Did Fu Gui ever say that?"

Chen Yuqiang asked curiously.

At this moment, they all came out of their homes and headed towards Chen Ling's farm.

Knowing that Chen Ling is going to hold a 100-day celebration for the two little ones, I wanted to ask if there was anything I could do to help.

"He must have said that. He had been planning to kill a batch of chickens and ducks when he held the banquet."

Chen Ze said with certainty, "Also, we don't want Uncle Cunye and his wife to be busy here every day, picking eggs and pickling salted eggs. It's too much work. After the two little ones grow up, there will be three of us with Rui Rui."

With so many chickens, ducks, and geese, how could he possibly take care of them all?

Chen Yuqiang laughed when he heard this: "Oh, you're right. With Rui Rui's personality, he's even more mischievous than he was when he was a child. Add to that the two little ones, and I think he won't be able to do anything starting next year with these three little monkeys."

To put it bluntly, that's really how it is.

But they certainly didn't know what Chen Ling was thinking.

We chatted idly until we arrived at the farm.

When they arrived at the farm, there were people who had arrived before them.

They didn't recognize these two people, because one was Zhao Gang from the military dog ​​base, and the other was Chen Ling's older cousin.

Zhao Gang rarely appears in the village, so they don't recognize him. Chen Ling's older cousin also rarely comes. If they didn't say anything, who would recognize him?

The main reason for Zhao Wenpin's visit was to help Chen Ling in advance.

In the countryside, when something like this happens, relatives and friends from all walks of life will always step in to help tidy up the house.

Besides this, he also had other matters to consult Chen Ling.

He was Zhao Wenpin's man; he looked young, but had a strong old-fashioned style.

They don't like to say what's on their mind directly; they always start by talking about a lot of trivial family matters before getting to the point.

But he was also tongue-tied, and after a long pause, he couldn't get the words out.

So at lunchtime, Chen Ling immediately noticed that he had something to say. After lunch, she specifically called him outside and asked him what was wrong.

When Chen Yuqiang and his companion arrived, they overheard Zhao Wenpin complaining.

They say their son is only six or seven years old, but his mother and wife have spoiled him rotten.

Although he didn't understand the concept of "a spoiled child from a poor family," he knew in his heart that with his family's situation—no money and no skills—his spoiled son would definitely not be able to endure the slightest hardship when he grew up.

If parents are unwilling to teach their children now, it will be a big problem if outsiders are asked to teach them later.

But he doesn't know how to discipline his child. If he hits him, his mother and grandmother will protect him, so hitting him won't work either. In the end, it will only make his son hate him as his father. So he is very worried.

"This matter is simple in some ways, but quite difficult in others. It all depends on whether you, Brother Pin, are willing to spend the money."

Chen Ling herself had come from being a spoiled and unruly child, so she knew all too well what the psychology of such a spoiled child was like.

"Spend money? How do we spend money, like sending him to boarding school?"

Zhao Wenpin thought for a moment after hearing this and nodded, saying, "That is one way, but he's too young now. Your aunt and your cousin-in-law wouldn't be willing to let him go out."

Even if we send them to school, it will be another two or three years, until they are in the second or third grade.

"No, no, no, that's not what I meant by spending money."

Chen Ling shook his head: "What I mean is, you're worried that my aunt and cousin-in-law are spoiling the kids, so why don't you add fuel to the fire?"

If your child wants something to eat or play with, just buy it for him/her.

You have to get him to listen to you, his father, first.

"what?"

Upon hearing this, Zhao Wenpin's large eyes widened in confusion. "Won't things get even worse if this continues?"

"Please let me finish..."

Chen Ling smiled and shook his head, "I did this so that the child would know that you, as his father, treat him better than his mother and grandmother."

He'll be more receptive to what you say in the future.

Perhaps you, Brother Pin, think that doing this will only make the child more disobedient.

If you give them whatever they want, won't it become increasingly difficult to teach them later on?
This is not the case.

Just make some conditions whenever you buy him something he wants.

Just like when we were kids taking exams, our parents would say, "If you get a perfect score, I'll boil you two eggs."

Tell him that he is a good boy, a good child, and that he will buy him this and that when the time comes.

The more she cried and made a fuss, the more disobedient she became, and we wouldn't buy her anything.

In this way, gradually, the child trusts you and listens to you.

You should encourage him more, praise him more, and tell him that he is a good child who listens to his parents and a sensible and obedient boy...

Be patient, and slowly, whatever you say, he'll be able to get in.

Just like at lunchtime today, look at Rui Rui, Su Su and I told him that the little tiger is very focused when it eats and never moves around, so that it can grow strong and powerful and no one can beat it.

He immediately calmed down, sat on the small stool, and without Susu's prompting, finished his meal with a spoon.

"It's too easy, it's just like coaxing a child..."

Zhao Wenpin's eyes widened, as if he had grasped something, but his limited education prevented him from understanding it more deeply, and he was unable to articulate the complex thoughts that were welling up in his mind.

So when the words were on the tip of his tongue, he could only widen his eyes further and further, unable to utter a single word.

Wang Susu, who was passing by, suppressed a laugh after hearing this. She thought to herself that her husband A-Ling's idea was not like coaxing a child at all, but clearly the kind of thing you do to train a dog.

When Rui Rui first learned to crawl on the ground, she was like this. Chen Ling wouldn't let her interfere, and he used the example of a puppy, which made her very annoyed.

However, to be fair, Chen Ling's methods were quite effective.

"You're not wrong to think that way. Just do as I say for now. The child is still young, so don't worry too much."

Chen Ling comforted him.

In later generations, many people have come to call this method 'PUA'.

They all expressed that the biggest form of psychological manipulation they had ever experienced came from their parents.

Because from a young age, my parents instilled in me the concept that I am excellent.

So gradually I came to believe it. I would feel guilty if I didn't do well on the exam, and I would be afraid to go home if I couldn't find a good job, because I felt I had let them down.

It has been criticized by many people.

But I have to say...

This method is the most suitable for Zhao Wenpin's family situation.

There's no need to hit the child. With his aunt and cousin-in-law protecting him, Zhao Wenping only needs to spoil the child and subtly guide him with his own ideas.

Chen Ling asked Zhao Wenpin to teach the child to be sensible and ambitious. Would the aunt and cousin-in-law really stop the child from learning well?
Certainly not.

Even a triad boss wants his child to be a sensible child who listens to his parents.

"Okay, I'll try it when I get back."

Now that his cousin Chen Ling has all sorts of accolades, Zhao Wenping, though he doesn't understand whether this method is effective or not, still trusts him.

"I think this is a good idea, I'll try it when I get back."

Zhao Gang chuckled at this moment. He had truly taken Chen Ling's words to heart when he said them.

This is related to his personal conduct.

He came from a military background and taught his children in a strict and rigid manner, following the military style. However, his wife and parents were the complete opposite, spoiling their children rotten.

The actual situation is even more serious than what Zhao Wenpin experienced.

Because his child was much older than Zhao Wenpin's child.

"..."

Chen Ling thought to himself, "What's going on today? Did these two older brothers come over to discuss children's education with me because I'm hosting a banquet for my little one?"